As I’m learning about how to make money and get rich I’m seeing huge parallels between how I got good with women. It’s not enough to just desire hot women, it must become an obsession. I, like most of my fellow Dating Coaches were consumed by a passion to get good and a willingness to do whatever it took.
We spent countless hours in bars and clubs or roaming the streets practising and equally as much time studying books or dvd’s. It’s necessary. The truth is, no one that I know that learnt how to date hot women did so in a balanced fashion, other areas of our lives took a hit, but ultimately were improved as a result of learning what it takes to attract and keep a beautiful woman.
Entering The Cave And Revealing The Treasure
Ever feel like you’re boring and uninteresting? As if what you like to talk about won’t interest a woman?
We’ve all been there and there are times that I still get the feeling if I’ve been locked away working for long periods without socializing. While explore the reason I stumbled across something that really made sense for me.
There are cycles that determine the type of activities we should be performing at any given time. It’s most aparent in nature and you can learn a from studying the parallels between the cycles in your life and those in the natural world.
If you’ve ever been plagued by any form of anxiety, it’s highly likely that there are deeper fears than the fear of rejection causing it.
Once fear has taken a hold of you for long enough, it becomes a “state of mind”…
If you’re at this point, take drastic action to break free from the fear!
It’s been a long journey for me. (January, 2011 marks my 5th year in the “Game.”)
As I was re-reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, I was reminded of one of my biggest “ah-ha” moments in my learning process.
As I’ve recently decided to commit to an exclusive relationship I’ve been reflecting on some of the strategies that have served me over the years. I haven’t been in an exclusive relationship for 4 ½ years and for the most part I’ve done that without ever lying or leading women on (In the early days I didn’t exactly lie, but I wasn’t exactly forthcoming with the truth – mainly because of my weak emotional freedom and a lack of an abundance mentality)
Below are some of the strategies I’ve consistently used and mistakes that I’ve corrected to secure casual relationships.
This is almost like cheating but I actually have to give myself a pat on the back for having a random moment of genius, even though I was completely winging it the first time I came up with it!
It follows a similar format as the question game but is used earlier in the set and can run through the WHOLE SET!!!
Whilst doing High End Club Game with the Navy Seal Team (5.0 , Daxx , Mr M , Sheriff) and on a 1-1 , Mr M Veto’s (A great game we play, you point to a hot set and your wing has to open, NO EXCUSES!) me on a 2 set of ridiculously Hot Brunettes, they have a bunch of guys floating around them and my first reaction is “Fuck! You Bastard! “)”
ASSUMPTION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL FUCK UP’S!
I was inspired to write this post after the Miami Daygame Workshop that I was instructing with Soul , it’s also something that comes up EVERY Bootcamp or 1-1 without fail!
At least one student will say “That’s probably her boyfriend”.
Let me first start by saying I personally don’t advocate taking another guys woman, one of the reasons I continue to learn and teach dating science is to make a positive contribution. Call me old fashioned but I like to see people happy, and being the destructive force in someone else’s relationship doesn’t sit well with me.
In NLP “State” refers to the overall emotional, physiological and psychological condition of an individual. There have been many things written in the community on State, does it exist? Should you be able to perform even without being “In State”? And so on.
Everything I teach is only taught after I’ve practiced and drilled personally so that I know it works, and what I’ll share below are ways to get “In State” EVERY time you need to perform at a high standard.
A “State” is made up of three layers and in order to change State all you have to do is:
In the aftermath of Project Rockstar, it’s hard not to notice the change that has occurred in the Rockstars as well as me. I feel the greatest shift is in what I now demand from my life. I’ve been consciously involved in “Personal development” for the past 6yrs and as I look back it’s extremely easy to see the change and progress that I’ve made. However, looking at the Rockstars’ progression and what they’ve achieved in such a short time, the bar has been raised!
Your Body Language says more about you than any Routine or DHV Story that you throw into a set. It is so powerful and fundamental to the seduction process that it can get you blown out, approached or invited into a set before you even open your mouth.***
The effects of Body Language on my Game
My professional training as an actor helped my game to sky rocket!
In my early days before I understood attraction and the role that Body Language plays, I blew a lot of sets by doing too much. Here’s the thing, although I didn’t completely feel like it, my Body Language was that of a high value confident man, due to the work I’d done in my training. I’d go into a set, thinking my value was lower than perceived, Neg, look like an arrogant twat and blow it.
A common question I’m asked is “How long did it take you to get good with women?” And while I’m unable to give a precise answer I am aware of the tools I used to get good quickly. I went through many frustrating nights coming home virtually in tears of frustration but it’s what I did in those moments that enabled me to take major steps and overcome my sticking points .
One of the most useful tools I’ve used to accelerate my learning is Creative Visualization.